I am sitting here on the sofa. It's not too early, but still morning. Mom is sitting in her chair. Harry is at the Sunday morning meeting. We are enjoying a cup of coffee.
I was about to make a comment. It was not of any importance, but just a thought to be shared...
Then I considered how I would have to talk very loud for Mom to hear, repeat my thought a few times until Mom understood it, and then listen to Mom answer with a comment completely unrelated to my thought.
Therefore, I said nothing.
I mourn the loss of conversation with Mom. I can't share too many things with her. If it's about the kids, she gets very upset, worried, frustrated, mad, etc. depending on the comment, and then worries about it for days. She builds on it in her mind and changes the information...then she speaks the wrong information which becomes her reality...it's hard to correct her thoughts...
As hard as it is on me, I can't even begin to imagine how frustrating it must be for Mom. I know she wants to be involved with what is going on, but even when she hears, she doesn't always understand...
Helping her keep up with the conversation by repeating what was said does not always work. Not hearing when someone else is talking and trying to talk herself is frustrating to those in the conversation, but also sorrowful to me to see it happening. Having to stop her speaking because someone else is speaking must hurt her feelings, but the one speaking also has feelings about being interrupted...
I feel I am always in the middle trying to keep the peace with all the members of the household. I seem to spend all my time stroking egos!
And I still don't get to say my comment because I would have to shout it, repeat it, explain it, etc. etc. etc.
So, never mind!
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Monday, November 22, 2010
Another Fall, Nothing New!
Well, here we go again!
I realized I had not written anything in over a month...time to catch up!
Last Thursday (Nov.18, 2010), around 10pm, Mom was getting into her wheelchair and she fell. The wheels were not locked, and she had not called for help, and she had not locked the wheels, so as she was backing into the chair, it moved, she lost her balance, and she hit the floor.
Her glasses smashed into her eyebrow and cut it. It was not a heavy bleeder, nor a deep cut, which means to me that the hit was not very hard. But over the next several days, she developed a very pretty black eye as the blood settled around her eye.
As we were getting her up off the floor, she was feeling pain in her left side so we decided to get her to the hospital for x-rays etc. to be sure all was well.
After several hours in the hospital and a head cat scan and a chest x-ray, we were released to go home. No broken bones, or internal bleeding! Thank you Lord...We were told to be prepared for lots of aches and pains as her body healed from the fall, and they were right.
Mom has not had many bruise spots, but lots of aches that are slowly getting better. Her eye is almost back to normal...
She says she gets nervous when she has to stand, but she still refuses to ask for help... I know she wants to be independent, but is she just being hard headed? Or do things just not compute in her brain???
Oh well....
I realized I had not written anything in over a month...time to catch up!
Last Thursday (Nov.18, 2010), around 10pm, Mom was getting into her wheelchair and she fell. The wheels were not locked, and she had not called for help, and she had not locked the wheels, so as she was backing into the chair, it moved, she lost her balance, and she hit the floor.
Her glasses smashed into her eyebrow and cut it. It was not a heavy bleeder, nor a deep cut, which means to me that the hit was not very hard. But over the next several days, she developed a very pretty black eye as the blood settled around her eye.
As we were getting her up off the floor, she was feeling pain in her left side so we decided to get her to the hospital for x-rays etc. to be sure all was well.
After several hours in the hospital and a head cat scan and a chest x-ray, we were released to go home. No broken bones, or internal bleeding! Thank you Lord...We were told to be prepared for lots of aches and pains as her body healed from the fall, and they were right.
Mom has not had many bruise spots, but lots of aches that are slowly getting better. Her eye is almost back to normal...
She says she gets nervous when she has to stand, but she still refuses to ask for help... I know she wants to be independent, but is she just being hard headed? Or do things just not compute in her brain???
Oh well....
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