Current Happenings

Well, Mom has been in the Care Center since July. Can I say she has accepted her situation? Not really. She has good days and we have good visits without fussing and crying.On her bad days I spend the time consoling her about her situation and end up leaving her in tears and I go home and cry. We both are miserable. What can I say...

My mind understands the need for her to be in full-time care, but my heart wants her here. I find myself dreading my visits with her and I hate the thought that I have those feeling. My whole being is tired and I still have to push myself to get things done.

My real help is Melissa. Since she is at home, I rely on her to visit her grandmother at least once a week for me. She brings clean clothes and picks up the dirty ones and usually visits for an hour or so. Mom seems to enjoy her visits, Melissa sees her grandmother, and I am able to take care of things at home with the assurance that Mom is being cared for. A win-win situation for us all. Thanks Melissa.

Melissa visited the day after Mike and Laurie visited and Mom was in a good mood. She had all good things to say about her visits with her other children and was glad to see Melissa. I guess it means the other kids need to make a real effort to visit, regardless of how tired or busy they are.

After a particularly bad visit last week, I left the Care Center in a bad mood. I had noticed the other family members had not been there is a while and I sent out text messages while in that bad mood. I guess I "fussed" loud enough that got results in them visiting Mom, and me getting "sorry" flowers from Mike... Loved the flowers, but loved their visiting their mom much better...

I am not leaving out the other family members. I encourage my other kids and grandkids to visit. All family members need to make an effort to visit her. If that happened, she would have a visitor every day. She wouldn't feel abandoned, and the Care Center would stay on their toes, so to speak, in their daily care for her, knowing family members would be watching...

She is not the mom we knew, but she is the mom we have and if we don't want to have regrets in the future, visiting her is the answer. 

I don't know who I am writing this for. I don't know who reads this blog. But I feel better putting my thoughts down on paper.